Christian views of dating
It’s harsh to judge someone for finding happiness with a new partner ‘too quickly’, and not trust them to know their own mind.
However, it can also take a long time to process grief, and it can be disastrous to start a new relationship when still in the depths of bereavement – although very understandable, when someone is desperately craving the affection and company they’ve lost.
Therefore, I think it’s safe to say that this is the defining purpose of dating: to find someone to marry.
It is because of this that I really believe that a person should begin dating only when he or she is at an age and stage in life when marriage is a realistic possibility.
A variety of courtship literature has been established to give guidance to singles and their families regarding the major Biblical principles.
A growing body of testimony provides practical insights and understanding into the methods by which courtship advocates have deployed the universal principles of courtship into unique circumstances, such as when one of the parties has been abused or neglected by their parents or when they are older than typical marrying age.
Or mentioning their far-off distant relative who they thought might still be single (which they never were), and who they could maybe one day set me up with (which they never did).
If a loved one is ill for a long time, we sometimes do much of our grieving before they die, and may be ready to move on more quickly.
The ultimate reason for dating is to find a spouse.
Once you’ve found someone to marry and you get married, you no longer engage in dating.
I believe it’s important to step back from the pressures around you and take a good look at the whole issue of dating. I hope that by giving you such a full answer, it will open your heart to the counter-cultural approach I am proposing to you regarding romance, dating and courtship.
The Purpose of Dating: What is the purpose of dating?